How to Apply Personal Growth to Your Life
Last week, Candice and I went on a yoga retreat with the Citizen Yoga to the beautiful Tulum for some serious R&R. The days were full of yoga (3-4 hours!), 75-minutes of juicy philosophy, sun, healthy food, great conversation, adventures, laughter, and tons of sleep. Let’s just say it was self-care to the max and the hardest decision needing to be made was pool or beach. #blessed
Many of us who attended either needed a serious recharge or needed the space to feel and think through upcoming life transitions. Through several of my conversations with fellow retreaters’ and now my own experience of merging retreat life with the “real” world, the question of “...but how do I actually apply this new knowledge?” kept coming up.
Since we are all in different phases of life and going after our own goals, here is a basic framework to walk-through when you learn something new you want to apply to your life:
Awareness is Everything
Once you create awareness it is inevitable that change will begin. Whether you begin to take action right away, or not, you can not take away the original awareness. When you first learn something new in the personal growth space (new perspective, strategy, or habit) simply begin to notice where you choose old habits. Notice: What events lead up to making this choice? What thoughts were you thinking right before you made this choice? How did making this choice make you feel after-the-fact?
Oftentimes we are choosing old behaviors by living automatically. We always choose what feels best to us in any given moment. Once we build awareness around why we choose the old behavior we are able to begin creating a pause space to see if that is really the choice we want to make or begin implementing the new behavior instead.
Release the Old to Make Room for the New
In order to fill your closet with a new wardrobe that best reflects you and your personality, you have to clear out the old clothes to make room for the new. The same goes for trying to add new habits in to your already packed schedule. Clearing clutter is a never ending process. Below are a few ideas to get you started. Choose the one that feels simplest to you and keep going one after the next—that may be one per day or one per week.
Clearing receipts and excess shenanigans from your wallet.
Unsubscribing from social media accounts that make you excessively judge or feel bad about yourself or from newsletters you never “get around to reading”
Removing piles of paper or clutter from your desk
Closet clean up! Time to get rid of any clothes with holes, shoes that are overly worn, or simply don’t make you feel your best
Organize your computer files and clear out any files no longer needed so you can quickly and easily find what you need
Change doesn't happen overnight—it happens one choice at a time. It’s not a matter of IF you will achieve your goal or not, but a matter of WHEN. By choosing to show up each day you are allowing the new habits or ways of being to sink in and integrate on a deeper level. Give yourself a shot to receive your dreams by showing up and taking action.
“The truth is, what you do matters. What you do today matters. What you do every day matters. Successful people just do the things that seem to make no difference in the act of doing them and they do them over and over and over until the compound effect kicks in.”
― Jeff Olson, The Slight Edge
Reconnect to your WHY
It’s helpful to connect to your why on a weekly, if not daily basis so you know why you are showing UP and choosing the thing that may be more difficult in the moment.
There will be challenges along the way. That’s OKAY! It does not mean it’s not working or you are not making process. This does not make it scary, but rather helps you hold your ground when they do arise.
To find your real WHY you have to go several layers deep. Take your original goal or desire and ASK, “What will having that do for me?”. Apply that question to your answer several times and then begin asking yourself, “What’s important about experiencing that at this specific point in my life?”
Socialize Your New Teachings
Sharing what we are up to with our friends & family, work colleagues, and even social media friends creates a sense of accountability. If you never verbalize what you are aspiring to create you can easily back down and no one would be the wiser. When you share it creates conversation for others to check-in and ask “How ___________ is going?”
Maybe you want to keep your goals a secret to “prove” to _______ that you can do it before you announce it. If this is you, I challenge you to begin giving voice to your desires. You will be amazed at what “random” opportunities arise for you to take more steps forward and the support and encouragement you may receive from others. If you come from a background where support was not found easily, that is the power in searching out positive like-minded individuals or hiring your own personal coach to see the best version of you when you might not be able to.
When you choose goals that align with expressing yourself on the greatest level you will ultimately win. Curiously question the drive behind your goals and notice if they are even subtly disempowering. They usually sound something like, “Once I achieve _______ THEN I will be worthy of ___________ receive love or acknowledgement from ___________ or belong with __________ group.” The mind can be a ninja so always be clear on your true intentions for putting energy behind a certain outcome.
We will be hosting a Wellness Reboot on June 9th at The Collective at True North where I will be teaching one of my most favorite tools to embody the next best version of yourself while releasing the old ways of being that prevent you from moving forward.
I have taught this workshop in San Diego and Miami and am beyond stoked to bring it to my hometown! To learn more and register for this special day visit this link.
Always rooting for you and your success,
P.S. If you have questions about a specific goal in your life and how to start applying these steps, comment below! Excited to hear what you are aiming for and supporting you in any way I can.