Mindset - Change Your Self-Talk, Change Your Life
You sexy MotherF*cker. Yupp. Welcome to my self-talk.
I recently shared a post on 5 Habits to Master in 2019, so we are diving right into habit number five - Mindfulness, or Mindset as I'll most often refer to it. There are countless places that we could begin in terms of mindset, but I've found that it doesn't matter how many positive actions you take to improve your life if you don't radically love and accept yourself & your body.
There are five fundamental, yet basic, steps to take to revive your mindset. I’ll be sharing more about each step in upcoming posts, but the first step that starts it all is Awareness.
Think about it.
Our body carries us through this one life we have and while we can always seek to optimize its potential, there is a difference between punishing & manipulating it vs simply providing the tools needed to thrive.
Start by getting curious & deeply listening to how you talk to yourself.
Pause and acknowledge how your usual, nonchalant self-deprecating comments are affecting your self-confidence at the end of the day. The more and more you do this the quicker you'll be at catching the barely audible, under your breath, comments towards yourself. THIS is when the true revival begins.
No need to pile on more judgment as you began to realize the state of your self-talk. Practice compassion by saying something along the lines of, "Wow. So this is how I am treating myself..."
For a very long time, I believed my body had failed me. Every morning it was difficult to wake up and get out of bed. Before I’d move a muscle, I would brace myself waiting for my stiff joints and achy bones to say their mean good morning.
I remember one doctor giving me a very specific way to get out of bed each morning. Each time I'd give it a try, a wave of anger and confusion would wash over me as I wondered, "How did I go from doing backflips on a 4-inch beam to this???" I'd feel so much rage bubble up in me and I’d feel defeated by 6:15 am each day.
For about 7 years you could say I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I was a simmering pot held together by a smile and it took everything I had to make it through the day.
Every move I made would send a ping of pain or rather "another sign of how my body had failed". When I looked in the mirror I would bathe myself in self-hatred, shame, and how I would never "be good at anything". I judged my body for being too masculine in gymnastics but transferred that judgment to every stretch mark, newly gained pound, and area of cellulite once I couldn't train for 20 hours a week anymore.
It didn't matter what I did or what I looked like. I could not win when it came to how my body looked or how it performed. I demanded my body to work like a machine without allowing it to rest and refused to listen to its repair manual when it was desperately lighting flares to be saved.
This is why I refer to my body as a sexy motherf*cker now when I look in the mirror. Not for my physical shape or any physical attributes for that matter but because she has been through IT. She is tough, resilient, and takes no shit. She will tell me how she feels and how to make it right. All I have to do is listen, provide the tools/resources she is asking for, and practice patience.
When we judge or are at war within ourselves, the only one that loses is us.
Write a love letter to your body. Honor how difficult things may have been or currently are. To help you get started use the following writing prompt:
You to your body - I am proud of you for...
Your body to you - I forgive you for...
You to your body - I commit to you that...
You to your body - I love ___________ about you.
The intention of this letter is to help process the silent story we don't always realize is playing in our heads. It works to repair the foundation as a whole, while redirecting your self-talk on a daily basis helps mend the finer cracks.
Set goals that excite you & amplify your brilliance, not punish you for what your currently not.
Always rooting for you,
P.S. What was your takeaway from this article??? Share yours in the comments below as well as check out several examples of the writing prompts to help get you started!